Comments on: What responsibility does the minister of a church have when he knows of abuse in a parishoners marriage? http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html Tue, 22 May 2012 10:04:04 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Templar6 http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-1345 Templar6 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 11:53:47 +0000 http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html#comment-1345 You did the right thing. However you must not continue to dwell on the actions of the minister if you are going to experience healing with your new minister. The former minister may in fact be advocating for you - just not it the way you expect or wish - and in your current raw state of emotions your view of it and expectations do not line up with is efforts to minister to your husband as his primary parishioner. Based on what you say the problem stems from him and is not your fault so he would need to be closer to your husband in order to help him repent as opposed to chastise him on your behalf. There are too many unknown layers so I would say draw as close as you can to your new pastor and stay with prayer that you don't start harboring resentment that leads to lack of faith. Time heals all. You did the right thing. However you must not continue to dwell on the actions of the minister if you are going to experience healing with your new minister. The former minister may in fact be advocating for you – just not it the way you expect or wish – and in your current raw state of emotions your view of it and expectations do not line up with is efforts to minister to your husband as his primary parishioner. Based on what you say the problem stems from him and is not your fault so he would need to be closer to your husband in order to help him repent as opposed to chastise him on your behalf. There are too many unknown layers so I would say draw as close as you can to your new pastor and stay with prayer that you don’t start harboring resentment that leads to lack of faith.

Time heals all.

]]> By: Kate Alex Bahleef http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-1344 Kate Alex Bahleef Sat, 06 Mar 2010 11:00:25 +0000 http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html#comment-1344 Stop blaming others. Get advice from another place. Decide what you want to do about it and act accordingly. Stop blaming others. Get advice from another place. Decide what you want to do about it and act accordingly.

]]> By: Me http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-1343 Me Sat, 06 Mar 2010 10:00:56 +0000 http://churchbistroandtheatre.com/what-responsibility-does-the-minister-of-a-church-have-when-he-knows-of-abuse-in-a-parishoners-marriage.html#comment-1343 if your husband was abusing you, why didnt you get away from him? if your husband was abusing you, why didnt you get away from him?

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